Twenty-Nine

Happy birthday. My life is a blessed one. It feels tough at times, but they are the problems that many would gladly accept for the promises they bring.

Being a father is hard and it wears you down like no other venture. Our child is lovely and I’m happy to play my part in raising her. Who cares about my years when hers are there to count.

We bought a house, moving for the first time since Ber and I first lived together in 2013. It’s been stressful, but everytime I walk from room to room I feel like we’ve found a home where we can lay down roots. “A good move,” as they say.

This time last year I weighed 35 pounds more than I do right now and I stressed every night due to the state of my health. I still expect more from myself, but I know I’ve made great strides in fitness. I’m better prepared to find a path that suits the life I want to live. Finding a ‘normal’ in a new endeavor often takes the shape of failing in a lot of new, not-normal ways.

Most importantly I’m thankful for the opportunities I have everyday. Everywhere I turn there is so much potential for time well spent. I only wish I could live up to that potential more often. To be the husband I can be, the best father, the best happiness engineer. There are a lot of people out there I can help and I hope to find better ways of helping.

My focuses for the next year:

  • Strength (I’ve established a firmer base of fitness. I can now establish some true goals.)
  • Consistency (My good days are pretty damn good. I could use fewer bad days.)
  • Simplicity (Happiness is a measure of your aims. Making those aims simpler tends to make you happier.)

Thanks to everyone who’s there for me. You’re noticed and appreciated. You make my life better and I hope I can do the same for you.

Past birthdays: 28

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Twenty-eight

Happy birthday. Twenty-seven was an exciting year:

  • Got married in October
  • Became a full-time Automattician just 10 days later
  • Bought a car in February
  • Became an expectant father in March

Some may see that many big changes happening all at once and call it irresponsible or stressful. But truthfully I feel more secure, happy, and focused than ever before. Each decision was made with great care and intention. And it seems like twenty-seven was just a great big wind-up for twenty-eight.

The new family member will of course be the most important event of my next year. It’s an odd feeling knowing that very soon I’ll willingly move my priorities away from my wife and I and onto this new little human. And even now my decisions have obviously begun to shift.

Over the last year I’ve found almost all my successes to be the result of studying my daily habits and the weaknesses that might cause me to break them. Babies aren’t fond of keeping to my timetable, so we’re certainly going to test my ability to stay loose and adjust. Perhaps more important is that I’ll need to firmly stick to a few principles that already guide most of my decisions.

Family Is Top Priority

My child and my marriage are the most important things in my life. The tasks a family asks of you feel large because you understand the weight of their importance. But each task in itself can be accomplished with the will to do it. My parents worked hard and had three kids at this age. Something tells me that I can do my part for my little family with the same effort.

Work Is a Good Thing

Unlike some work I’ve done in the past, there’s really no downside to the work I do now. It keeps me learning and growing. It lets me help thousands of people pursue a passion that I myself enjoy. It lets me produce at the time and place I find best suits my family’s needs. And of course, it pays the bills. Some poor souls spend their working hours helping to accomplish a goal they care nothing about – I do not have that trouble. The hours I will spend working this year are honorable and worthwhile.

Health Makes Everything Better

I’ve been a runner for almost three months now. I’m not very good at it yet, but I can already see how it makes me feel better. After a run I can breathe clearer, sleep deeper, and handle a longer day. Making better food choices only multiplies this feeling – but that’s a skill I need to improve upon. My point is, a choice for a health is a choice for a better life. My family and work can both make better use of me when I’m at my healthiest.

Happiness Comes Simply

Creative pursuits like blogging, drawing, and writing the stories for my D&D group are incredibly fulfilling and bring me great joy. Going out for meals and drinks, or purchasing new things and tickets for events are less fulfilling and cost much more. More and more I’ve learned to save the money I earn and spend my time on these fulfilling things instead of spending the cash.

These principles are simple, but not easy. We’ll see how well they stand up to the test of a year.

Birthday Ingress

For Amber’s birthday she mostly wanted to hang out with friends. When our friends hangout we play Ingress. At Ber’s request, I planned a small bit of multi-layering downtown the night before. The operation went by smoothly and everyone had fun in the nice weather.

Everyone even wore blue shirts to support the Resistance! Totally unplanned!

In Louisville and interested in Ingress? Comment here, we can meetup and I can help get you started with the game. It’s something I enjoy.