Daycare At Last

My wife went back to work the first of the month. For three weeks we were both working full time jobs and the baby was still spending her days here at home. “It takes a village” is so right: we would not have gotten by if not for many hours of baby sitting provided by family and friends. In particular, my father-in-law was spending 10-15 hours a week here each morning. In addition to any baby sitting hours folks could provide I’d work from 6am-7:30am and 5:30pm-9pm most weekdays then as much as possible on weekends.

On top of all that was all the wrangling of enrolling in a daycare. All the best facilities have long waitlists – “up to year” was  phrase I began to loathe. In the end we submitted application fees to three different places waitlists, and looked at doing a part-time schedule at less awesome facility that had no waitlist.

It was hard scrambling it all together, but thankfully my employer provided the flexibility of time that we were able to make it all happen. It’s really pushed me, but it’s all worked out. Grace started daycare today and it went as smooth as anyone could hope. A tiny bit of tears at the drop-off, but the rest of the day she was a champ.

I was glad to work a 9 to 5 for the first time in a while. I think I can finish this month out with a good amount of work completed and this stressful time behind me. Many thanks to everyone who’s helped us out this May.


Urge to Game Rising

For the last two years, I’ve been the DM for a Dungeons & Dragons game that nominally meets every other week. We’re currently going through the adventure path Out of the Abyss, but we’re over a year in and only just getting to the halfway point in the story. And the characters will need some grinding time before starting the next chunk at a higher level.

Using an adventure path has proven to be invaluable. It’s pretty rare that I can’t prepare the session day-of if I’m too irresponsible to give it more time during the week. But even with this amazing material, it’s a lot pull together mentally.

We’re going to take a little break and I’m super excited about it. Most of my players have expressed interest in DMing a one-shot or module. We’re going to let everyone have a turn behind the screen while I get my creative juices flowing again to do the latter portion of the adventure. I’m looking forward to playing and seeing what ideas our will-be-DMs have in mind.

So that got me feeling good. Then this week a freaking awesome episode of Tabletop was released: Fate Core.

I have seen the rulebook for Fate at my friendly local game shop before. But my roleplay experience has always been in fantasy worlds like D&D and Pathfinder. So I didn’t really see the need to learn a new system.

But this video has me itching. I want to play it so bad. Not sure this is an urge that can be stopped. Who’s in? I’ll have what Dr. Osgood was having!


Ber last ran the Kentucky Derby Festival miniMarathon in 2015, right after we found out she was pregnant with Grace. Ever since she finished, she’s been excited to run it again. Today she finished the 2017 miniMarathon, after fourteen weeks of training.

I’m incredibly proud of her, and watching her complete such a big event really makes the last few months’ work and focus worthwhile.

Recently I’ve been thinking about life more and more in terms of segments.  The first segment of this year was Ber’s half-marathon. Our family’s #1 priority since the new year was Ber’s training for this event, and we were all on board with that. It’s not the only thing we did, but it was the most important thing.

At work I tend to think in segments book-ended by meetups. My team just went to Washington DC and I’m now looking at the work I’ll be doing between now and the Grand Meetup in September.

What seems appealing about this outlook is that it’s okay for big goals, because a segment is necessarily a large chunk of time. 14 weeks is a lot of time to get better at running. 5 months is a lot of time to get good work done. So even if every step forward is a small one, over the course of a segment you are certainly closer to your goal.

It’s a (mini) marathon, not a sprint.

Terrible Questions

If someone asks you a question, think to yourself about the quality of the question.

If it’s of poor quality, it’s best to respond with a question of your own.

Terrible questions will make your answer terrible. Don’t play that game: work your way to a good question instead.

I find this helpful in customer support, conversation, debate, and even wrangling with my stupid internal thoughts.

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