• As I get older, I’m realizing more and more that it doesn’t really matter if I’m good at it, it just matters that I try. My own effort, my own willingness, are becoming what’s appealing to me.
    Lena Dunham

    via espnW

    I feel the same way about my recent efforts in fitness.

  • Mr. Money Mustache’s latest article is one I plan to read over and over for a while. No really, I just setup some automated reminders to read it again several times in the near future. MMM was the first blogger I really got into following (back in October 2011 when I found the post The True Cost of Commuting) and I’m a little sad that he doesn’t post as frequently anymore. But this one really rings true.

    Some select awesomeness…

    The difference is how you come out of those 20s.  At best, the advice above will get you some good memories, a strong career, a slightly larger waistline and weaker liver, and a negligible net worth. Better than the average fate, but a huge waste of an opportunity if you ask me.

    Because here’s the thing about your 20s. They are the time to work. The very, very best time in your life to work your ass off and create an exponential snowball of money, skills, and friendships.

    In real life (even New York City real life), you get paid for getting really difficult shit done, better than anybody else can do it.

    I’m trying harder and harder everyday to get really good at doing really difficult shit. On my birthday, I reminded myself that my work is a good thing.

    Before I grew fond of MMM, I first learned a lot from Dave Ramsey. And this ethos is one of few things these guys fully agree. Ramsey’s saying is “live like no one else, so later you can live like no one else.” So true. Work your ass off in your 20s so you can actually bother to live your life afterwards. A retirement fund isn’t a noose around your 20-year-old neck, it’s a lifeline.

  • Happy to count Kirsten and Cory among my friends. This is great!

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    Something amazing has just happened and it involves my bestest friend Kirst

    Congratulations to the both of them.  These two amazing people are going to be even more amazing together.  I know they’ll make it an adventure.

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  • In a few weeks, Automattic will be having its 2015 Grand Meetup, my first. Part of the Grand Meetup everyday are tracks of “Flash Talks.” Everyone in the company gives a four-minute (maximum) talk on any topic they want. It could be WordPress- or Automattic-related, a funny story, something you love, something you hate… anything you want to share with your now-and-future colleagues.

    It took me a while to get started but this weekend I finally settled on my flash talk topic and outlining the story. To neatly confine my material to four minutes without speed-talking, I’ve started practicing the flash talk once a day and focusing on cutting things out. When I started, my talk had almost a minute of introduction. It’s pretty much all gone now and I think the talk is better for it.

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    Practicing in the mirror.

    This approach is different for me. I’ve never been scared of public speaking but I usually take the method of writing an essay first, then translating from ‘writing Alex’ to ‘speaking Alex.’ With only four minutes, I don’t trust myself to do this well. I got inspired to practice this much after watching this video of Scott Berkun (a former automattician) regarding Ignite talks.

    Scott points out with a five minute talk you can practice 10 times in an hour, so do it! With a four minute talk you can practice even more, but I’m just going to do it once a day instead of cramming all that into an hour. It’s different for me, but totally a fitting approach that I’m enjoying.

    This week I’ll need to start on slides!

  • Relevant to yesterday’s note on kicking, here’s a comic from lunarbaboon that made Ber and I both laugh.

    “Proud” by lunarbaboon

    "Proud" by lunarbaboon.Whoa that was a big kick! Looks like we've got a little soccer player. Whatever you decide to do I'll be proud of you. Man arrested for kicking 18 people in the face.

    I actually spent a solid hour of my Sunday reading the comics at lunarbaboon.com. Laughing never really stopped and I kept needing to hand over the computer to Ber. “But you’ll love this one!” I’d say. “Ooookay,” she’d say reluctantly taking the computer. Then a moment later she’d laugh out loud too. This happened over and over. Eventually I had to promise to stop disrupting her reading with these moments of awesomeness.

    So yes, I’d recommend you go read the comics too.

  • Ber and I were laying around yesterday and I rested my head on her belly to try and feel the baby. I was promptly kicked.

  • BAREfit, the gym I just joined, runs mostly on the philosophy of group workouts. Mondays and Tuesdays are “push” days where you’ll push heavy crap with the muscles on the front of your body. Wednesdays and Thursdays are “pull” days where you balance out the rear side of your body by pulling other types of heavy crap. Fridays and Saturdays are “Whim” days.

    Whim days are always unique setups where you’ll get a little bit everything, though perhaps more of a core/abs workout than you’ll do on a typical pull or push day. Lots of times there will be an obstacle course of some sort, maybe some excercise that require more accounting for instability – and almost certainly more cardio.

    But at the end of yesterday’s Whim workout, Emma had a unique experience for my two classmates and I. We had already done five stations of workout including plyometrics, climbing, jumping, and flexibility. And she assured us some final abs work would finish the day. But how many sets of abs we had to do would be determined by this penultimate challenge.

    “The gym floor is now lava,” she said, throwing down some mats at the farthest edges of the floor.

    After she laid out the distance, she handed us three tiny mats, about 8 inches square. We were to make it all the way across the gym by laying down the mats without ever throwing or sliding them. Not so hard, right? Except all three of us were already shaking all over, we only had 2 and a half minutes to get across, and only 30 seconds to think before the clock started.

    So how’d we do?

    We used our 30 seconds and the clock started – but then we used another 20 seconds or so to finalize our plan. Then we did the whole thing in about a minute and 15 seconds, way under time. Only one set of abs for us!

    It was actually quite fun. Still had to expend some energy but we got to use some brainpower first. That’s not my normal experience with a workout.

  • It hurt my soul when I saw the last episode of LARPs (season 1.) That final episode really tugs at everything you love about the characters. And OF COURSE they bring us right back there in the first moments of the trailer for Season 2. I could barely breathe.

    My calendar is marked for Thursdays. Mark yours!

  • He didn’t teach you how to win, he taught you how not to lose. That’s nothing to be proud of. You’re playing not to lose, Josh. You’ve got to risk losing. You’ve got to risk everything. You’ve got to go to the edge of defeat. That’s where you want to be, boy – on the edge of defeat. Vinnie in Searching for Bobby Fischer

    This whole week I’ve had the soundtrack to Searching For Bobby Fischer playing on my spotify. It’s been on my mind enough that I needed to watch it tonight. This scene, when Josh starts having fun playing chess again, always tears me up. Half the movie tears me up – but that moment is just great.

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  • On a whim, Amber turned on Bill and Ted’s Excellent Adventure last night. That movie totally holds up to everything I remember it being. Keanu’s acting never felt more genuine.